This blog's purpose: Debunk myths, and talk about life in general.
Blog #1:
My husband and I had some trouble getting pregnant. It took a little over 2.5 years, and different medications.
First myth I'd like to debunk:
It is ok to push people to have children.
Having a child was our greatest wish. I had a physical problem that was preventing me from getting pregnant. When people asked "So, when are you going to have a baby?" or, "Why are you waiting?", My heart would sink. I found myself crying, because I felt like there was this black hole in my womb, and my life. And, it wasn't for lack of trying or "practice" as people like to call it. We found ourselves searching for couples in the same predicament. It brought comfort, knowing we weren't alone.
Myth #2
Having a baby is hard
Having a baby isn't just hard. It's downright, the hardest thing I've ever had to go through. The 20 hr labor, ending in a C-section was nothing compared to nursing my baby. I was never told how much nursing hurt. I am on the verge of tears every time the baby latches on. I've come emotionally close to giving up on nursing (Which goes against everything I've ever been taught, or believe about raising a newborn). The hardest part about it, is that it's horrible pain that comes back for more every two hours, and it lasts for more than 20 hrs. I wish I had taken a nursing class. That didn't happen first of all because it was expensive at the hospital. But, I also thought "Nursing class? Why would I need to take a nursing class? I was there when my Mom had three kids, and it seemed like a piece of cake!" Well, hindsight is 20/20!
Now for the good stuff:
I am typically a very positive person. And, just so this Myth blasting doesn't get too depressing, I'm going to counter balance it with a positive thought on every blog.
All of the depression, and the emptiness, and the pain, and the emotional roller-coasters are worth it. My husband and I are all the more close for the trials behind us. And, looking into our baby's deep blue eyes when he's content brings me to one of the highest emotional peaks I have ever climbed.
I hope that as we take this new trial upon ourselves, we can still be sensitive to those who wait. As our challenges get harder, we need to look back and remember that the past was hard too. Hopefully we have learned from it, and grow to be closer to our Heavenly Father (God) through each stumbling block.
Having loved ones around is such a blessing. My mom had to go through nursing me alone. Her mother was in heaven, and she lived hundreds of miles away from any sisters. I am so happy she has been here to lift my emotional burden. I would have given up on nursing without her.
My husband is amazing. I feel more love for him because of how he is with the baby than I ever have before. My heart goes pitter patter when he giggles and says "aww he's sooo cute!" I know it is difficult for him too. He works full time, and has been helping immensely with the baby. The way he approaches this hurdle softens my heart, and has allowed me to see into his charitable heart. I love him so much, and thank God for him.
